Going to talk about the one tip I give almost everybody when it comes to getting your ex back, and it has Nothing to do with “No contact” or anything you’ve heard of before.
The phase most overlooked and ignored is the RECOVERY phase Why? Well, because in the wake of a break up, most people don’t care about recovering from their ex. Sometimes, that’s the Last thing they want to do. But in order to assume the proper mentality to get your ex back, you have to fully recover from the breakup.
Think of it from your ex’s perspective. Do you want to get back with a person who’s broken? Who’s depressed all the time and won’t stop crying? Or would you rather get back together with a person who’s vibrant, happy, and full of life? It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that the latter person is much, much more attractive. But for a lot of people, recovering from a breakup is tough work and rightfully so. When someone you love suddenly disappears from your life, it can be a tough pill to swallow. And it can be so difficult that you stop eating, sleeping, and functioning normally. Thankfully, there are steps you can take to help you along the Recovery phase.
Below, I’m going to outline a few tips that will help you get over your ex so you can work on getting them back into your life.
1. Go out for a jog or hit the gym Or do any sort of cardiovascular activity.
When you exercise, your body sort of goes into a strange state of happiness. Certain hormones in your brain are released when you exercise and these hormones are responsible for mood and energy levels. So while going out for a run won’t make you get your ex back, it’ll help you feel better about yourself and expedite the process of the Recovery Phase.
2. Go meditate or do some yoga. There have been countless studies about meditation to some, it sounds like a lot of magical mumbo jumbo, but in truth, there are scientific benefits to meditating at least 20 minutes a day. Not only does it help you clear your mind, but it’s been proven to lower stress and anxiety levels.
In the wake up a break up, stress and anxiety levels can be off the charts so doing what you can to moderate this negativity will do wonders for your mental health. Meditating isn’t all that difficult or daunting – simply closing your eyes while breathing steadily and clearing your mind can be good enough to have a positive effect on you. And if you’re up for it, go do some yoga! You’ll be shocked at how good you feel after
3. Hang out with friends and family.
This is one of my personal favourite ways of getting over your ex. Do whatever you can to reconnect with old friends (or make new ones). Don’t hang out with your friends to just constantly talk about the breakup – your friends won’t appreciate this for long. Instead, do your best to simply hang out with your friends and have fun. You’ll be surprised at how good they are at making you forget about your ex completely.
In fact, make a concerted effort to go out and make New friends. Join a club, go to the gym and take a class, or do whatever you can to try and meet new people. It’s by far one of the best ways to forget about your ex and who know, maybe you’ll find someone BETTER than your ex and decide not to get back together with him or her!
4. Concentrate on work or school.
This is one of the best ways to turn your breakup into something positive and productive.
If you’re able to, try and focus all of the negative feelings and emotions into school or work not only will you make yourself more appealing to the opposite sex, but it will also occupy your mind and make you recover from the breakup even quicker. I know, thinking about work or opening a text book is probably one the last things you’ll want to do, but when you look back months down the road, you’ll thank yourself for doing something productive instead of wasting away in your bedroom.
5. Pickup a new hobby.
Right now is a great time to focus on yourself and the things you enjoy.
If you’lve always wanted to play that violin, guitar, or piano, now is the time to take some lessons. This is a great way to take your mind off your ex, and who knows, maybe you’ll develop and majorly awesome talent in the meantime! This will not only help you recover from your breakup, but you’ll become even more attractive to the opposite sex because of your amazing new talentand there’s nothing wrong with that!
6. Do some charity work. Again, I completely understand if the idea of volunteering right now sounds completely absurd, but doing something good in the world will make you feel a whole lot better. See if there’s a way you can volunteer at your local homeless shelter or one of my personal favourites, become a big brother or big sister! This organization is great at pairing you up with a young person that you can mentor and help It’ll keep your mind off your breakup and you’ll feel better about yourself!